How Will My Dad Take the News?

QUESTION

Dear Mr. Dad,
I am 16 and I have found out am having a baby. How do you think my dad would take the news?

ANSWER

Hi,
Well, I think you've just articulated every father's worst nightmare.

But the question of how your father will take the news isn't nearly as important as the questions you need to ask yourself. For example:

  • Are you planning to have the baby?
  • If so, do you plan to keep him or will you give him up for adoption?
  • What's your relationship like with the baby's father?
  • Does he know?
  • Is he making a commitment to be involved?

You'll need to spend a lot of time thinking through these questions before telling your parents. Your first conversation should be with the baby's father, who has a right to be part of any decision, whether it's to have or not to have the baby.

You may also be able to get some counseling through your school or a local Planned Parenthood chapter.

Best of luck,
-- "Mr. Dad"

Comments

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hey Hun, I'm 18 and i just found out i'm pregnant as well.. I told my mom and my step dad today and although they were mad they have to deal with it.

I think the best way to tell him is to be honest. He really doesn't have a choice, because it is your decision what you do with yourself and the baby. Try getting him at a time where you know he is happy and just kinda say it to him. lol I just told my parents flat out ... Hey i'm having a baby.

Good luck and I wish you the best !!

Armin Brott

A nationally recognized parenting expert, Armin Brott is the bestselling author of The Expectant Father: Facts, Tips and Advice for Dads-To-Be, The New Father: A Dad's Guide to the First Year, Fathering Your Toddler, The Military Father: A Hands-on Guide for Deployed Dads, and four other books on fatherhood. He has written on parenting, fatherhood, and health for the New York Times Magazine, The Washington Post, Newsweek, and dozens of other periodicals. He also hosts "Positive Parenting," which airs on a dozen stations in the US and worldwide on the American Forces Network. Armin lives with his family in Oakland, California. You may visit his website at mrdad.com to learn more.