How Will My Dad Take the News?

Armin Brott's picture
Experts: 

QUESTION

Dear Mr. Dad,
I am 16 and I have found out am having a baby. How do you think my dad would take the news?

ANSWER

Hi,
Well, I think you've just articulated every father's worst nightmare.

But the question of how your father will take the news isn't nearly as important as the questions you need to ask yourself. For example:

  • Are you planning to have the baby?
  • If so, do you plan to keep him or will you give him up for adoption?
  • What's your relationship like with the baby's father?
  • Does he know?
  • Is he making a commitment to be involved?

You'll need to spend a lot of time thinking through these questions before telling your parents. Your first conversation should be with the baby's father, who has a right to be part of any decision, whether it's to have or not to have the baby.

You may also be able to get some counseling through your school or a local Planned Parenthood chapter.

Best of luck,
-- "Mr. Dad"