I Need Help Controlling Rage During Pregnancy

QUESTION

Dear Doula,
I just found out last week that I am pregnant with my second child. Currently my daughter is just 1 month shy of being two years old.

My question is this...during my first pregnancy I became INSANELY jealous of every woman I saw my husband talking to. It didn't matter if we had worked with her for 5+ years, I couldn't help my feeling of rage and jealousy while I was pregnant. I was never that jealous before I was pregnant. After my daughter was born, my feelings subsided, and everything was back to normal again.

Now that I am pregnant again, I'm afraid that my jealousy feelings will again bring problems to my relationship with my husband. Right now I am about 6 weeks along and these feeling are slowly creeping back in again.

Please help.
T.R.

ANSWER

Hi T.R.,
I'm sure it was shocking for both you and your husband for you to have that reaction, and my guess is that the hormones of pregnancy affected your emotions to produce the effect you describe. Our hormone production during pregnancy is many times that of a non-pregnant state, and can have a profound effect on emotional states.

You may want to consider seeing a qualified certified or clinical hypnotherapist for a session or two to help reframe at an inner level the feelings that come up, and develop an inner "anchor" which will help you to help you remain more balanced and calm. I suggest a hypnotherapist because hypnosis works much faster than cognitive therapy and I'm sure you want help that will begin to take effect quickly. All true change come from within and using hypnosis will help ensure a faster and more permanent result.

I wish you all the best and I know you will have a much easier pregnancy this time around!

-- Kerry, HCHI, CHt

Kerry Tuschhoff

Kerry Tuschhoff, HCHI, CHt, CI has been in the birthing field since 1989. She taught the Bradley method of natural childbirth from 1989 to 1999 and then created the Hypnobabies Childbirth Hypnosis course. She has attended over 250 births as a Doula and Hypno-Doula, and feels it is an honor to be asked to share such a wonderfully spiritual experience with her childbirth students.

She is also a certified hypnotherapist, trains Hypnobabies Instructors, author of Hypnobabies: Eyes Open Childbirth Hypnosis, a conference speaker and is Founder/Director of Hypnobabies LLC in Southern California. Kerry feels that women can enjoy their own way to give birth with excellent education, support and loving encouragement. She looks forward to helping you all have the best possible birth experience you can. Please take a moment to visit Kerry's Website.