My Son is 11 Months Old and I'm Pregnant Again!

QUESTION

Dear Midwife,
I have an 11 month old son and last month my husband an I decided to start trying for another so they would be close in age. We had no idea it would work the first month. I just have so many questions.

My first pregnancy was perfect. He was 4 weeks early but no problems or anything of that matter. I feel like I'm ready to take on the role of "Mother of two" but I am also only 18.

Our families disagree that we shouldn't be having another child because it is too soon. But I want my son to learn to share before he goes to school.

I also would like to know about miscarriage. I've never had one but is it too early in my pregnancy to tell everyone that I'm pregnant. Because of the stress I would like to wait until I'm a little further but at the same time we have already told my parents and his parents.

I just don't want all the stress to hurt the baby.

Thanks~

ANSWER

It is definitely your decision as to when to tell people. The risk of miscarriage goes way down once the first trimester is over at 13 weeks, but even when you are able to hear the heartbeat with a doppler, that is a pretty good sign.

Congratulations!
-- Cynthia, CNM. PhD.

Cynthia Flynn

Cynthia Flynn, CNM. PhD, is the General Director of the Family Health and Birth Center which provides prenatal, birth, postnatal, gynecological and primary health care to underserved women and their families in Washington, D.C. Recently Cynthia served as Associate Professor of Nursing at Seattle University. There she not only taught, but remained in full scope clinical midwifery practice at Valley Medical Center where she cared for pregnant and birthing women, and practices well-woman gynecology, family planning, and treatment of sexually transmitted diseases.

Cynthia founded Columbia Women's Clinic and Birth Center, where she took care of pregnant women and infants up to two weeks of age and attended both birth center and hospital births. Before Cynthia earned her CNM, she worked as a registered nurse in labor and delivery and postpartum and is a certified Doula and Doula trainer.