Over 35: Problems Conceiving

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Dear Midwife,I am a 35-year-old white female with 3 successful pregnancies. My first was born when I was 21. They are 5-15 years old. I am now married again and my new husband has no children and wants one of his own desperately. I am healthy, but I am obese at approximately 185 pounds and 5'4". I do not have regular periods....they are from 28-40 days, so we can't tell when I ovulate. We make love almost on a daily basis.

Can you tell me why I can't seem to get pregnant? I am late again as it's been 37 days -- it has been around 33 days in length. Was I too early with the test? I have experienced some nausea, but no tenderness. It makes it difficult to check cervical mucous when we make love so much.Thank you very much for your help! I look forward to hearing from you.


You don't mention how long you have been trying, but assuming it has been more than 6 months, you might benefit from losing weight and/or taking a diabetes medication.

Before doing all that though, you might ask your husband to take a sperm test just to make sure all is well there. Good luck!

-- Cynthia, CNM

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