Pelvic Rest: Getting Your Partner on Board

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QUESTION

I'm 12 weeks pregnant and experiencing some complications. I've been put on pelvic rest. How do I get my husband to understand that it means nothing can enter? The rest is till 13-14 weeks so there are another 1 -2 weeks yet.

I don't really have the interest in sex right now either. How can I convey that so he understands?

Thanks,
Becki

ANSWER

Hi Becki,

Well I guess there are two sides to every coin and there are lots of pregnant women out there who wish their husbands were still attracted to them and wanted to have relations with them whilst pregnant so you should feel happy that he's still 100%, even during pelvic rest!

Honestly though, it sounds like he needs to attend a doctor's appointment with you and you should bring up sex with the doctor. By the sound of it he'll recommend that you don't have sex so the hubby will at least then understand that in your condition it's simply not possible.

As for you, well you may change your mind before the pregnancy is finished so keep an open mind!

Perhaps you could also suggest some other forms of intimacy that don't involve actual sex. It's a good time to reacquaint yourselves with some good old-fashioned fooling around, assuming of course you are up to it.

Hope that helps!

Regards,
Sam