Trying To Have a Baby

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Dear Midwife,
I and my husband have been trying to have a baby since October of this year. While trying I have been stress and getting little more stress since nothing has happened. Im trying to stay positive with it all but it's hard.

My menstrual cycles have been coming on normal expect in August of this year. I didn’t have one at all that month so I thought I was Pregnant. I wasn’t so I felt it was just stress. After August my menstrual cycles have been coming like they should expect for yesterday when I should have started.

Me and my husband have been trying in November so i'm thinking I may be pregnant. I took a test and it came back negative . . . I’m wanting to know if I should see my Gyn.?

At this point I’m guessing myself if I am able to have children. I’m 23 and my husband is 24. I don’t think my age has anything to do with it but I’m not really sure. I’m Trying to do everything right by taking my prenatal vitamins, trying on the date I ovulated and not getting so stress out. Please help

Thank you


I'm a little confused, because it sounds like you have been trying for a while, but if you only started in October, that was just two months ago.

At your age, we don't even begin to consider that something might be wrong for the first year of trying (12 cycles).

Also, if you want to improve your chances, it's good to have intercourse every other day for the week *before* you ovulate, just so some swimmers are handy in the fallopian tubes when the egg is released.

But hey, when you have your baby, you are going to be very busy, so why not just relax and enjoy this time with your husband?? It is a real gift to have private time with him, so enjoy it!

-- Cynthia, CNM