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Trying To Have a Baby

QUESTION

Dear Midwife,
I and my husband have been trying to have a baby since October of this year. While trying I have been stress and getting little more stress since nothing has happened. Im trying to stay positive with it all but it's hard.

My menstrual cycles have been coming on normal expect in August of this year. I didn’t have one at all that month so I thought I was Pregnant. I wasn’t so I felt it was just stress. After August my menstrual cycles have been coming like they should expect for yesterday when I should have started.

Me and my husband have been trying in November so i'm thinking I may be pregnant. I took a test and it came back negative . . . I’m wanting to know if I should see my Gyn.?

At this point I’m guessing myself if I am able to have children. I’m 23 and my husband is 24. I don’t think my age has anything to do with it but I’m not really sure. I’m Trying to do everything right by taking my prenatal vitamins, trying on the date I ovulated and not getting so stress out. Please help

Thank you

ANSWER

I'm a little confused, because it sounds like you have been trying for a while, but if you only started in October, that was just two months ago.

At your age, we don't even begin to consider that something might be wrong for the first year of trying (12 cycles).

Also, if you want to improve your chances, it's good to have intercourse every other day for the week *before* you ovulate, just so some swimmers are handy in the fallopian tubes when the egg is released.

But hey, when you have your baby, you are going to be very busy, so why not just relax and enjoy this time with your husband?? It is a real gift to have private time with him, so enjoy it!

-- Cynthia, CNM

Cynthia Flynn

Cynthia Flynn, CNM. PhD, is the General Director of the Family Health and Birth Center which provides prenatal, birth, postnatal, gynecological and primary health care to underserved women and their families in Washington, D.C. Recently Cynthia served as Associate Professor of Nursing at Seattle University. There she not only taught, but remained in full scope clinical midwifery practice at Valley Medical Center where she cared for pregnant and birthing women, and practices well-woman gynecology, family planning, and treatment of sexually transmitted diseases.

Cynthia founded Columbia Women's Clinic and Birth Center, where she took care of pregnant women and infants up to two weeks of age and attended both birth center and hospital births. Before Cynthia earned her CNM, she worked as a registered nurse in labor and delivery and postpartum and is a certified Doula and Doula trainer.