becoming a new dad

Thinking Before Speaking: 12 Things Men Shouldn't Say During Childbirth

annakec's picture

Childbirth is a wondrous thing, and many dads-to-be want to be right there in the delivery room to experience it. Not only do you get to support your wife but you also get to be there for your son or daughter's first breath. However, no matter how thrilled they are, men can never completely understand all that goes into bringing a life into the world. For that reason, they can sometimes make comments that their wives are less than thrilled to hear.

Roles of Fatherhood

Laura Markham's picture


Dear Dr. Laura,

My husband and I have a 2 month old son together, a first child for either of us. The first 2 weeks home were great, and then my husband seemed to go back to his old life. For about a month now, hes been telling me that dads don't need to bond with the baby until 18 months of age and until then, raising the baby is my job. I have no issue being the sole caretaker for the baby, but I think its unfair to our son. I think a father-son bond is very important, especially since I grew up in a single-parent household.

Not Cut Out to Be a Parent

Armin Brott's picture


Dear Mr. Dad,

My baby is just 4 months old. I know that my wife expect me to be more actively involved in parenting stuff like playing, talking with my son, feeding, changing him and all that. However, I treasure my lifestyle and I don't exactly have a desire to be as involved as my wife. Well, she's pretty upset with me. What should I do? How do I get the desire to be an active parent?