Concerned About 5-year-old Behavior

Laura Markham's picture


Dear Dr. Laura,
My son is a high needs kid. We have, for the most part, been able to manage his outbursts. Today at school we were called because he told two separate children that he wanted them to be dead. After the first time I sat down and talked with him in the quiet area and did believe that he understood how important it was not to say things like that. After I left he said it again to a different child. The day care is very concerned and did stress that in public school he would most likely be sent home if it happened there.


Usually children lie for the same reasons adults do -- they feel trapped, are scared of punishment or rejection, feel threatened, or just think lying will make things easier for everyone. Often lying is a sign of low self-esteem.

The Daycare Blues

You've just started your two-year-old in a new childcare arrangement. You're thrilled with his new childcare provider, but he doesn't want anything to do with her. He protests loudly when it's time for you to say goodbye and you drive to work feeling miserable about the entire situation.