Many parents use "behavior modification" programs, such as rewards, sticker charts or token systems to teach children skills, get children to take on responsibilities, or curb an unwanted behavior.
Dear Dr. Laura,
My son is a high needs kid. We have, for the most part, been able to manage his outbursts. Today at school we were called because he told two separate children that he wanted them to be dead. After the first time I sat down and talked with him in the quiet area and did believe that he understood how important it was not to say things like that. After I left he said it again to a different child. The day care is very concerned and did stress that in public school he would most likely be sent home if it happened there.
Choices are the best tool for preventing and stopping power struggles and rebellion. There are a few ways that parents can run into problems, however, so here are a few guidelines for using choices effectively.
When a child is disrespectful to teachers or classmates, the first source to consider is the behavior of the adults in this child's life. Children who aren't treated with respect have no model for respectful behavior.
Usually children lie for the same reasons adults do -- they feel trapped, are scared of punishment or rejection, feel threatened, or just think lying will make things easier for everyone. Often lying is a sign of low self-esteem.
But much of the brain's wiring does not happen until after birth. In the first months and years of life, brain cells form connections in many parts of the brain. These connections are the complex circuits that shape our thinking, feelings, and behaviors.
by Michele Borba, Ed.D
My 19-month-old son is normally a very happy child -- very playful, always laughing or singing or just babbling. In my opinion he is very smart for his age. He can count to 20, knows his abc's and lots of songs to his favorite cartoon shows and nursery rhymes.
You've just started your two-year-old in a new childcare arrangement. You're thrilled with his new childcare provider, but he doesn't want anything to do with her. He protests loudly when it's time for you to say goodbye and you drive to work feeling miserable about the entire situation.