When you think of holidays, you probably think of family. At this time of year, couples in a remarriage with children might be feeling...imperfect. For example, they might be polarized and facing plenty of misunderstanding from friends and family. In the face of all the pressure and misunderstanding, take heart. Here are ten simple tips for stepfamily sanity this holiday season.
What stepfamilies themselves, as well as the best family therapists, have known for years, is that the standard of blending is just plain wrong. It not only misrepresents the reality of life for all the players in a remarriage with children; the concept is also unrealistic and harmful to stepfamilies and individual stepfamily members.
A few months into their efforts to create a positive blended family experience, they realized it wasn't working. Strained relationships, marriage stress, and conflict abounded. Sadly, much of the family tension that existed was preventable.