When you are parenting after a divorce, you are working within a situation that is certainly not your ideal. You may not be able to change that overall structure, but there are many small things you can do that will make the situation easier and happier for everyone.
It's to be expected that you and your ex are going to have some disagreements as you continue to parent your children together. You can solve problems on your own and avoid the revolving courtroom door. Follow these tips:
Whether your child spends most of his or her time at your home, or at the other parent's home, you probably want to be informed and stay involved with your child's education. Unfortunately, many schools make this a challenge.
A custody order is not a declaration, condemnation, or reward about the parents' abilities, personalities, or lifestyles. It doesn't determine who is the "good" parent and who is the "bad" parent. A custody order is a method of organizing your lives so that your child has one home and has time to spend with each parent.
The beginning of the year is an excellent time to make some changes that will make your life, and your child's life, much more bearable. Consider making some of these New Year's resolutions:
If you or your ex are relocating, you know it is going to be hard for your child to stay close to the non-residential parent. However, as the residential parent, there are many things you can do to encourage them to interact and many ways to provide support during this difficult adjustment.
There are many situations you can work out on your own, however, there are also many situations where you do need help from professionals. Learning what kind of intervention to use when can save everyone a lot of headaches and ultimately a lot of attorney's fees.
A parenting plan or visitation schedule is created for the benefit of the child. Spending time with both parents is a right given to the child. If visitation belongs to anyone, it belongs to the child.
"But Dad always lets me stay up this late." "At Mom's house we don't have to take the garbage out." Sound familiar? You need to create important, big, lifestyle rules that are followed at both homes.
The parenting plan should just be a starting place for you. Anything you can both agree to in the future should become your plan. You aren't bound to this plan for the rest of your lives.