"I love you," are three words all children need to hear often from their parents. Do you want those words to have real meaning to your child?
One of the things you will quickly learn about being a stay-at-home-mom is that it can sometimes be difficult to shift gears from Mommy to Hot Mama. When it's 9 p.m. and your husband is giving you that look, it can be a challenge to look at your husband with little more than indifference. Here's a few ways to make that S in SAHM stand for Sexy!
There are natural concerns about really saying what's on your mind, what's in your heart. Sometimes, it's appropriate to be careful, like with someone who's vulnerable, or to stay out of a rage, or if there is any whiff of possible partner abuse.
Fundamentally, empathy is a skill, like any other, and you can get better at it. And much the same, you can ask your partner to get better at it, too! Plus, getting better at empathy will only help a person become a better parent.
My wife and I get along great except I just don't know how to handle it when she comes to me to complain about a situation at work, or when she is emotional over something. I try to help her but no matter what I do, I just seem to make it worse.
To solve these problems -- and maintain an intact family in which to raise precious children -- we've found five key methods. They're not glib, they're not a TV sound bite, but they're the real deal. Try them yourself and see if you can get your spouse to go along.
All of us could probably get better at empathy, but men in particular tend to be raised in our society to focus on facts and solutions rather than feelings and relationships. If approached with respect (and some empathy as well), many fathers welcome a gentle suggestion about what to actually do in order to be more empathic.
Commit to dealing with your own issues. If you've been struggling with your weight for years and your preteen is eating everything in sight and showing it, your conversations with her are guaranteed to backfire. Get professional help if you need to.
Did you resolve to build a better relationship with your kids this year? Have more deep conversations? Then you'll be interested to know that the most important skill for parents in talking with kids is listening. What your kids need from you is your full attention and empathy.