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  • Lost Father to Drunk Driver

    QUESTION

    Dear Dr. Laura,
    When my oldest son was 19 months old his father was killed by a drunk driver. He's now 3 years old going on 4 and knows his fathers picture when he sees it and knows that daddy is in heaven with angels. Lately though he's started asking if he could go to heaven to see his daddy.

    I'm personally still a wreck over the accident and am not sure how I should be discussing his fathers death with him especially since I usually start to cry. Should I keep talking to him about his daddy or should I be holding off until he is older?

  • Helping a Friend Through Pregnancy Loss

    My best friend's baby died at 39 weeks gestation. What could I say? Could I share the pain? Was there anything I could do? I felt so helpless. Since then, I've experienced four pregnancy losses of my own. I hope these glimpses into loss will enable you to help your friend.

  • Ectopic and Infertility

    Two weeks after our long-awaited positive, we found it was an ectopic pregnancy. We were devastated. Now I want answers to why. Can I still get pregnant without treatment? Will it turn out to be normal? I feel hopeless and all alone. My family is more tuned in to my sister being pregnant and forgetting about my loss. I hope you can help! Read Debbie and Mara's reply.

  • Support Groups and Timing Another Pregnancy

    QUESTION

    Dear Experts,
    My husband and I recently suffered a pregnancy loss at 19 weeks. I am looking for support groups in the area. I have been unsuccessful in locating someplace to assist in dealing with this. Also, when do you know you are ready to try again for a healthy baby?

    Any assistance would be greatly appreciated.

    Sincerely,
    Aimee

  • Timing Subsequent Pregnancies

    QUESTION

    Dear Experts,
    Three months ago, my twin sons were born prematurely and died the following day. I'm seeing a grief counselor this week, and think that will help me. My question is, how do you know when you are ready to start trying again? My husband and I had already waited 7 years before we decided to try for the first time.

    And though I have given birth and held my sons in my arms, I don't have children in my home. I long for a child in my arms, in my house that I can nurture, love and watch grow.

  • Permission To Grieve

    It has almost been three years since the day we lost you, and still, not a day goes by without a thought of you, a wish that you were here, with me, on earth. I never stop wondering what you would have been like, what you would have looked like. I know your brothers would have loved you...

  • All My Little Angels

    Each of my losses was unique and individual by circumstances, and each were grieved differently for those reasons. Here are my angels' stories:

  • Stillbirth: Surviving Emotionally

    Stillbirth is one of the most devastating of losses, affecting over 25,000 families each year. Stillbirth touches families of all races, religion and socio-economic status. For many parents stillbirth is a loss that hits unexpectedly.

  • Marriage Survival After The Loss Of A Baby

    by Carol Ruth Blackman

    Introduction

    Losing a child affects parents in many ways. Survival skills are needed to keep your marriage strong after losing your baby. We'll look first at the differences between husbands and wives, then discuss some of the dangers to be aware of and include suggestions for successfully surviving the natural differences between a husband's and wife's grief and the dangers which arise after loss.

  • Amanda's Journey In the beginning...

    It all started with Emilee getting sick mid September. Long story short, she ended up being hospitalized on September 28th. After all the stress that night, I found I was getting my period. It was kind of the straw that broke the camels back. I just lost it.

  • Amanda's Journey -- Week 5

    Boy have I missed writing in here for over a week. Our vacation was nice. It was so much fun to see all the kids together. Boy was the noise level in that house LOUD! Three 2-year-olds and a 7-year-old in one room can give anybody a headache.

  • Amanda's Journey -- Week 3

    I know I didn't write much last week. We were busy with … well, I don't know what! My Aunt and cousin were down this weekend. My cousin has had a lot of problems this past year. It was good to see him yet I was a little uncomfortable.

  • Ectopic and Infertility

    Two weeks after our long-awaited positive, we found it was an ectopic pregnancy. We were devastated. Now I want answers to why. Can I still get pregnant without treatment? Will it turn out to be normal? I feel hopeless and all alone. My family is more tuned in to my sister being pregnant and forgetting about my loss. I hope you can help! Read Debbie and Mara's reply.

  • Amanda's Journey In the beginning...

    It all started with Emilee getting sick mid September. Long story short, she ended up being hospitalized on September 28th. After all the stress that night, I found I was getting my period. It was kind of the straw that broke the camels back. I just lost it.

  • Amanda's Journey -- Week 26 (25 skipped)

    Okay, let's see how well I can type while the tears are coming at full force. Don't think I have to say one reason why I am crying. Yep, CD 1. I started spotting this afternoon. You would think it wouldn't affect me as much right now because we were taking a break this month. With my re-appointment coming up we thought we would relax this month. So, why did I still get my hopes up?

  • Helping a Friend Through Pregnancy Loss

    My best friend's baby died at 39 weeks gestation. What could I say? Could I share the pain? Was there anything I could do? I felt so helpless. Since then, I've experienced four pregnancy losses of my own. I hope these glimpses into loss will enable you to help your friend.

  • Amanda's Journey -- Week 9

    Well, here I am, waiting yet again for my period (AF) to arrive. I am so anxious. I want AF to just show up already if she is going to show. I think I will wait another 3 days till I go to test. God, how I hope this is it.

  • Amanda's Journey -- Week 11

    Well, today has been a good day. Jim and I made the standard resolution of eating healthier and trying to lose weight. I have battled being obese my whole life. I have tried so many things. Nothing has ever worked. Now with my Thyroid problem it makes it even harder to lose anything.

  • Amanda's Journey -- week 30

    It has been two weeks since my last entry. I never seem to have the time to sit down and write like I should. Between my ever challenging daughter, doctor appointments, work around the house...and well...everything these days, I never have the time.

  • Amanda's Journey -- Week 10

    Here I sit on New Years Eve. It is 11:20 pm, Emilee is asleep, Jim is at work and I am alone. What a depressing way to welcome in the New Year isn't it? I think out of the 6 New Years Jim and I have been together, we have spent 2 with each other.