Choices are the best tool for preventing and stopping power struggles and rebellion. There are a few ways that parents can run into problems, however, so here are a few guidelines for using choices effectively.
Discipline is guidance and teaching a child self-control. If you view children's misbehavior as a mistake in judgment, it may be easier to think of ways to teach a more acceptable alternative. By setting clear limits and disciplining in a positive, loving way.
There are several points that need to be made regarding time out for children who have not yet reached the age of reason: Any kind of time out should not be used with children under 3-1/2. Until children reach the age of reason, which starts around three...
So, is there any hope? How can we learn to be kind and firm at the same time? The first thing that will help is to become more aware of our "hook level." When we recognize that we are becoming hooked we can take a deep breath and back off (emotionally, if not physically).
Usually children lie for the same reasons adults do -- they feel trapped, are scared of punishment or rejection, feel threatened, or just think lying will make things easier for everyone. Often lying is a sign of low self-esteem.
Misbehaving children are discouraged children who have mistaken ideas on how to achieve their primary goal -- to belong. Their mistaken ideas lead them to misbehavior. We cannot be effective unless we address the mistaken beliefs rather than just the misbehavior.
He shared a lot of stories about how to be kind and firm at the same time. It was really hard for me to believe that it would work. In my family there had been plenty of firmness -- but very little kindness, and it was hard for me to believe that they could work together.
Parents everywhere understand the need for rules. So what, precisely, is it that makes discipline so frustrating? The way I see it, it isn't setting the rules and boundaries that's the problem for most parents: it's following through.
Do you and your partner disagree on discipline? You should try to get on the same page. That's the best way to stop arguing with your kids as witnesses. Here are some strategies that can be helpful.
Discipline is one of the most googled words for parents. The word "discipline" has nothing to do with punishment. The root of "discipline" is "disciple," from the verb "to teach." The question, of course, is what kind of discipline is most conducive to learning?