We asked Pregnancy.org members what makes their kids' "ouchies" better -- a hug and kiss, a Band-Aid®? Find out which cure works best!
I have a 3.5 year old named Aden. I have been trying to help him to be emotionally aware, and to give him a vocabulary to use to express his emotions appropriately. For example: it's okay to be angry; it's not okay to hit your sister. He has suddenly seemed to grasp the concept (not all the time, but often), and I am proud of him.
Many mothers say they wish their partner sympathized more with their situation. But the other side of the coin is also often true: that a father wishes his partner understood HIM more. Since one of the best ways to receive more understanding and consideration is to give it, let's take a moment to explore empathy for a father.
An important point to remember is that while our kids are born with the potential for empathy and generosity, those traits aren't guaranteed.
A perfect mom creates an impossible ideal. An imperfectly perfect mom helps her daughter learn to face the challenges and disappointments of life, which inevitably happen. In spite of your imperfection, if you are empathic, responsive, and respect boundaries, a lifelong close relationship with your daughter is probable.
We are nine weeks pregnant and I feel like @#$#@. My husband doesn't get it. His attitude is that since I don't "look" pregnant then I shouldn't be complaining.
I'll be honest. Right now I AM a grouch after feeling exhausted, nauseous 24/7, and then trying to juggle my normal routine (at work and home.)
I don't expect him to make it better but can't a guy have SOME sympathy?
Grouchy in Maryland
Morning Sickness is a lot like back pain. If you've never experienced it you'll never appreciate how debilitating it can be. Do men understand morning sickness? No. Do men under estimate how bad it can be? Yes. How can you get your man to be more supportive and sympathetic toward your morning sickness?
So, is there any hope? How can we learn to be kind and firm at the same time? The first thing that will help is to become more aware of our "hook level." When we recognize that we are becoming hooked we can take a deep breath and back off (emotionally, if not physically).
Do you create any of the following barriers regularly with someone you love? Do you believe that if you worked at it you could use them less often? Let's look at an example as a means of understanding the barriers and builders.
There are natural concerns about really saying what's on your mind, what's in your heart. Sometimes, it's appropriate to be careful, like with someone who's vulnerable, or to stay out of a rage, or if there is any whiff of possible partner abuse.