Oh dear! When children come along, relatives can be an incredible blessing or something of a curse -- and sometimes both at the same time. Happily, there are lots of ways to keep things on a good footing with the relatives.
Some couples are equal partners in the work of making a family. But that's the exception, since many studies have found that the average mother is on-task, working away at one thing or another, about twenty hours a week MORE than her partner is, whether or not she is drawing a paycheck.
I have a confession to make. My kids do a lot more work around the house than I ever did as a kid. For some reason, my parents let me get well into my teen years before introducing me to that mysterious appliance known as a washing machine.
When Sarah and I got back to our room and turned off the light, I felt her round stomach and got a lump in my throat. Why had a handful of our friends lost their pregnancies, where we did not? Why us?
Summer's half over! Don't worry, there's still time to make some fantastic family memories, even if you don't have the money or time to head off on vacation. But don't wait. The key is to get out a calendar and schedule the things you really want to do.
Commit to dealing with your own issues. If you've been struggling with your weight for years and your preteen is eating everything in sight and showing it, your conversations with her are guaranteed to backfire. Get professional help if you need to.
How do you hold a family together? How do you make kids WANT to spend time with the family? How do you give your children the motivation to work things through positively with their siblings and with you, instead of hardening into negative attitudes? Much of the answer has to do with the family culture you create.
Today is November 15th, and I found out that I am pregnant with my fourth baby. I am not sure how far along I am, or even when I am due. I just know that I have a baby growing inside me and that my HCG levels are 84.
Want more family togetherness and deeper meaning this holiday season? First, just say no to everything that feels obligatory. Then pick a few traditions -- not a whole list. You'll find they gain meaning as you revisit them every year, regardless of whether you celebrate Hanukkah, Kwanza, Christmas, or Solstice.