The First Time My Wife and I Were Pregnant

Having gone through it once before, there are some things I want to share with and warn my friends about, certain aspects of the whole pregnancy and childbirth thing that come solely from the male point of view. After a few discussions with some of my other friends who are already fathers, there are a few things we all agreed new fathers should know.

Disrespect to the dads

There are so many words of encouragement to all the mothers who have lost a baby but what about the fathers? Is it not half theirs too? What do they get, make sure you take up some of the chores and don't get too freaked out if she bursts into tears. Oh yeah, she may not want to have sex with you because it's a physical reminder to what she lost.

Empathy for a Father

Many mothers say they wish their partner sympathized more with their situation. But the other side of the coin is also often true: that a father wishes his partner understood HIM more. Since one of the best ways to receive more understanding and consideration is to give it, let's take a moment to explore empathy for a father.

How Can Military Dads Stay Involved With Their Families?

Armin Brott's picture


Dear Mr. Dad,
My wife and I are expecting our first child. The problem is that I'm in the US Marine Corps on tour in Iraq. I have been here since the beginning of the pregnancy and I might not be there for the birth of our child.

My wife is having a hard time doing this on her own and I feel that there's nothing I can do to support her. I'm reading your book, The Expectant Father, which I find very helpful. But do you know of any resources that are specifically aimed at military dads and/or their families?