So it all started with a plan once we were engaged. To be engaged for a year, married for a year, then babymaking. I put our plan on hold due to various relationship issues that I just knew had to be worked out prior to pregnancy. My husbands drinking problem was a major issue, something that never felt like an issue untill you though of bringing children into the mix. Another issue was finances my husband and I never did get joint bank accounts, due to the difference in income, he made alot more than me, and in turn paid for more bills than i could.