There are many roles we play in life. None is more important than being a parent. No matter what job you do or career you have, believe it or not, you are not irreplaceable. But as a father and a husband your "role" is unique and one-of-a-kind.
In the eight months of fatherhood you begin to notice that your baby interacts much more with you. He can recognize you and may even begin to show excitement when the two of you are together. You may be gaining more confidence in understanding what his crying is trying to tell you.
Is their tension between you and your wife? It is usual for couples to find, at six months, that they have tension that has built up around how the scheduling is organized. Since you baby keeps changing, it is difficult to have a "regular routine."
Becoming a father changes the way we view ourselves and the world around us. We see ourselves less as a son in relation to our own parents and more on equal footing with our own father. During the first year of parenthood it is usual for a new father to reflect on how he was raised by his own father.
During the fourth month you start to notice that their is a change in your intimate sexual relationship with your wife. It is very normal for this to happen, but why this happens is not well understood by dads.
Dad's at this time often hit the "exhaustion point." The unpredictability of the nights is usually the toughest. Not getting a continual night's sleep leaves many new fathers feel spent and fatigued.
Many new fathers comment on how wonderful and difficult that first month is. Your baby is still small and helpless but by the second month you may feel a difference as you hold him. He may seem to be more of a person.
There are natural concerns about really saying what's on your mind, what's in your heart. Sometimes, it's appropriate to be careful, like with someone who's vulnerable, or to stay out of a rage, or if there is any whiff of possible partner abuse.
My wife and I get along great except I just don't know how to handle it when she comes to me to complain about a situation at work, or when she is emotional over something. I try to help her but no matter what I do, I just seem to make it worse.
The good news -- fathers have become much more loving, friendly and caring parents to their children. The bad news is that many fathers are still so intensely focused on their work -- and children -- that they are letting their marriages wither on the vine.