Darlene Gant is dying from stage four breast cancer. There's no treatment that will change this and no current FDA approved treatments that will lengthen her life. In all likelihood, she will not get to spend Mother’s Day with her 11-year-old son, which is her dying wish.
Remember that Mother's Day is not a holiday that has to be celebrated. If a grieving mother does not want to attend a banquet, or watch baby dedications at church, or see special family gatherings at restaurants, then she has the right to choose not to participate in these events
Whether or not you are out of the closet to your family and friends regarding your fertility issues, holidays or special occasions including the upcoming "Mother's Day" celebration can be difficult to handle.
The original intent of Mother's day is unknown to the general population. It was an opportunity to use mother love as a powerful force for peacemaking, reconciliation and community cohesion.
There is no simple solution for decreasing the emotional pain of child loss, especially during a holiday such as Mother's Day that is specifically designed to honor mothers. A mother can, however, make some preparations for that day in an attempt to work through her grief rather than facing this holiday with an anticipated dread.