When a couple has a baby, it is a profound transition in their lives. It is the most important change in their adult life. How becoming a parent affects each of them as individuals and as a couple is still not well understood in our culture.
Dear Mr. Dad,
I used to be the center of my wife's universe. Now that we've had a baby, I'm jealous of all the time they spend together and I feel left out. Is this normal and how can I overcome my feelings?
If you have other children, deciding how and when to tell them a new family member is on the way can be a challenge. A good rule of thumb is to tailor the news according to the child's age. Here are some "pointers from parents" you may find helpful:
It is undeniable that the arrival of a baby, especially the first, transforms the relationship inside a couple. Three people now must share love, time and energy -- the exclusive nature of the couple's relationship comes to an end.
Many women worry about leaving their older child when they go to the hospital to give birth to their baby. It doesn't help that labor is by definition unpredictable in both timing and length, making it even harder to prepare a child who is often little more than a baby himself.
We have grown very distant since the birth of our daughter five months ago. I have been punishing by putting him in the "peace corner" but I don't like to isolate him either. My husband and I have resolved to figure out a better way to bring love and joy back into our family.