It's natural to feel both absorbed in your baby and worn out, so that any extra tug on you from someone else can seem like a hassle, if not an intrusive burden. Even so, there are plenty of reasons -- some altruistic and some enlightened self-interest -- to take good care of a father.
As baby becomes more aware, play "Seal Feet"...Lay baby on back on your lap and clap feet together making Seal/Walrus noises. (Again...don't be bashful to do this even in public. Who cares if you look silly!)
Dear Mr. Dad,
My baby is just 4 months old. I know that my wife expect me to be more actively involved in parenting stuff like playing, talking with my son, feeding, changing him and all that. However, I treasure my lifestyle and I don't exactly have a desire to be as involved as my wife. Well, she's pretty upset with me. What should I do? How do I get the desire to be an active parent?
Now she's been thrust into a bizarre world in which neither matters so much. In fact, if she's not gaining weight and breaking out, then something's wrong. That's a hard thing for women to get used to.
As she lay in bed and I held her hand, we reminisced about the delivery as though it had happened years, not minutes ago. (Remember when you had that contraction in the alley? Yeah, that was awesome.)