When you are parenting after a divorce, you are working within a situation that is certainly not your ideal. You may not be able to change that overall structure, but there are many small things you can do that will make the situation easier and happier for everyone.
It's to be expected that you and your ex are going to have some disagreements as you continue to parent your children together. You can solve problems on your own and avoid the revolving courtroom door. Follow these tips:
A custody order is not a declaration, condemnation, or reward about the parents' abilities, personalities, or lifestyles. It doesn't determine who is the "good" parent and who is the "bad" parent. A custody order is a method of organizing your lives so that your child has one home and has time to spend with each parent.
If you or your ex are relocating, you know it is going to be hard for your child to stay close to the non-residential parent. However, as the residential parent, there are many things you can do to encourage them to interact and many ways to provide support during this difficult adjustment.
There are some non-custodial parents who either skip visitation or think it should revolve around their lives. Dealing with these situations can be challenging. Setting limits will help you and your child cope better with the situation and take the guesswork out of visitation.
There are many situations you can work out on your own, however, there are also many situations where you do need help from professionals. Learning what kind of intervention to use when can save everyone a lot of headaches and ultimately a lot of attorney's fees.
"But Dad always lets me stay up this late." "At Mom's house we don't have to take the garbage out." Sound familiar? You need to create important, big, lifestyle rules that are followed at both homes.
Visitation is more than just a schedule. It is a connection to both parents. So what do you do when your child won't go?
Because children are always growing and changing, no parenting schedule will work forever. When making changes to your parenting plan, keep these things in mind:
One of the most common questions I am asked by custodial parents is whether they can reduce visitation. The easy answer to that question is maybe, if there has been a change in circumstances and if doing so would be in the best interest of the child.