It's not uncommon for a woman who has children to collapse in bed at night feeling as emotionally and physically drained as a vampire victim. Aside from often not having the physical and emotional energy for even the simplest bedroom gymnastics, it can be hard for a woman to intellectually switch gears from mommy to vixen.
Like many stay-at-home moms and work-from-home people, I rarely have a reason to dress up. (And by "dress up" I mean wear something other than shorts and a T-shirt in the summer or a turtleneck and comfy slacks in the winter.)
But if I did have to dress up because my life involved...
"Do I Have ADHD? I don't have a job. I'm home all day," you may tell yourself. As such, you think you should be able to complete a simple task like sorting through the bags of hand-me-downs your neighbor dropped off. But you can't get to it. What happened? What happened is that instead of accomplishing a big task...
Contrary to what many people believe, it's hard work to care for a child or children all day, and the work is often isolating, boring and exhausting. Contrary to what many people assume, stay-at-home motherhood is a job. It can be essential (to your happiness and sanity) to have the support and companionship of friends who can relate to and understand your new stay-at-home reality.
It's rare and challenging enough for a stay-at-home mother to get time to herself away from her kids. Since such freedom is so precious, your time off shouldn't be spoiled by the person left in charge in your place calling during your time away to ask...
Every May, in honor of Mother's Day, Salary.com announces how much the work of a stay-at-home mother is worth. Her annual salary, or value, in 2009, since in the real world the salary is a fantasy: an impressive $122,732. It's nice to be valued. What isn't so nice is that although stay-at-home moms are given lip service about their value and importance, full-time stay-at-home motherhood is not recognized as the job it really is.
As we all know, a baby changes everything. Those changes are wonderful (you have a new little person to love) and terrifying (you have a new little person to care for 24/7). Sometimes, in the excitement of the moment, women and their partners lose sight of how a baby can redefine a woman's priorities, relationships and sense of self.
Do you ever feel as if you're balancing at least a dozen professions? Guess what? You are! Here's a sampling of the job postings that would be needed to cover all you do for the children -- and significant other adult -- in your household.
Remember the days back when you were working and you and your work friends who were moms would talk about the life of a stay at home mom and how perfect it must be? We're all eating those words now, aren't we? Would you like ketchup on yours?
You might not like hearing these things, but while the truth is not always what you want to hear, it is what you need to hear, and as a fellow SAHM who had no idea what she was getting herself into, I feel it is my responsibility (and perverse pleasure) to enlighten you.