Whining is very common as little ones head into their second year. Babies who are beginning to toddle but not speaking much whine as a means of communication. They don't know that we find it irritating, and they wouldn't have the ability to communicate differently even if they did.
If you want to teach a child values, the best way to do it is by being good role models ourselves and by discussing the choices of everyday life. That means toddlerhood is young to "teach values" verbally, but a perfect time to start teaching values by modeling what you value.
Ok, so he's a wonderful little guy, affectionate and charming, and angelic when he's asleep. But he never stops moving, he grabs whatever he wants from other kids, he regularly hauls off and socks you in the face, and then laughs. He throws toys and purposely breaks things... How can you possibly make it through toddlerhood without succumbing to your natural homicidal responses?
So he's giving up the crib? You've been to the store and picked out the cutest toddler bed? All of you are totally excited? Except instead of rolling over and falling asleep, the way he did in the crib, now he comes out every two minutes to find you? All evening long?
A coup? A support group? This got me thinking about mom jeans and what they represent. What is it about mom jeans that make us laugh and cringe at the same time? How can a pair of pants inspire so many exclamation points?
The bad news is that some kids seem to be born good sleepers, and some don't. The good news is that falling asleep is a matter of habit. All kids can learn it. It may take some time to develop that habit, but your busy toddler can learn to put himself to sleep, and to stay asleep, eventually. Here's how:
Your six-month-old is happily gurgling in his bouncy seat on the floor of the family room, mouthing his rattle. Your two-year-old is playing with his cars nearby. You've just entered the kitchen to get dinner started, when the baby's wails signal that once again, your two-year-old has grabbed the baby's rattle and whacked him with it.
We have grown very distant since the birth of our daughter five months ago. I have been punishing by putting him in the "peace corner" but I don't like to isolate him either. My husband and I have resolved to figure out a better way to bring love and joy back into our family.
The crumpled face, the arms velcro-locked around your knees, the wail that rips through your heart. Virtually every parent who has left a toddler with a caregiver has experienced this. It's the normal response of a securely attached toddler who protests what she perceives as a life-threatening separation from her mother.