Our 12-year-old daughter says all her friends get paid for helping around the house, and she wants an allowance for doing chores too. This sounds crazy to my wife and me. Is it really a good idea?
Tweens are emerging teens, but they're still children. They'll astonish you with their ability to conceptualize and argue brilliantly, and then to do foolish things. Parenting tweens is a challenge because the pressures of the peer group magnify, kids demand more independence, and hormones flare as puberty approaches.
It's a shock when your previously sweet little girl starts tantrumming again. Twelve-year-old girls can be moody, over-dramatizing, self-centered, focused almost solely on friends, close-mouthed, surly, back-talking and condescending to parents. They can, of course, also be mature, affectionate and delightful, but at their worst...