You can easily be seduced by popular culture's messages that say that you will be a bad parent if you don't get your kids on the fast track as soon as possible. Examine and reconnect with your values (or change them). Make some deliberate choices about the kind of family life you want to have.
Talk explicitly about your values and why they are important to you. What IS integrity? Why is respectful behavior important in a church, synagogue or mosque? Helping children interpret the world is a crucial responsibility of parents.