Have you discovered that your child has been abused? It is an overwhelming time for you and your family. One step you may find helpful is to use this trauma as the impetus to create a very open, honest, and supportive family life. Here's how...
First things first -- congratulations. You have a typical four-year-old. This is about the time we begin to see (especially with boys) more aggression and copying behavior. It's also exactly the age to call a cease and pronto.
If you know someone who is being abused, you can help her by showing you care. Let her speak confidentially about her situation and without judgment. You may be the only person with whom she feels comfortable. Show you care in these ways:
- Listen to her
- Believe her
- Do not minimize her struggle
- Do not judge her
- Do not blame her
- Assure her that she is not responsible for the abuse
- Tell her it's not her fault. You can never make someone else hurt you
Myths and facts about domestic violence
Myth: Domestic violence does not affect many people.
Fact: Nearly one in three adult women experiences at least one physical assault by a partner during adulthood. (American Psychological Assn., Violence and the Family: Report of the American Psychological Association Presidential Task Force on Violence and the Family, 1996)
Myth: Battering is only a momentary loss of temper.
Domestic violence is a problem that affects every community across the country. It crosses all races, social and economic backgrounds, cultures, religions and relationship types
You will probably have to wait in the courthouse before your case comes up, so you should plan to spend most of the day there. Some courthouses have child care services. Try to find out before you go to court, If they do not, try to leave your children with someone...
This is a common question with a complicated answer. Some people do make changes in their actions and the beliefs that underlie the violence. Such change takes a long period of time. And some people may not change, even if they attend a batterer intervention program.
All battering is dangerous; one push or shove could result in death. Battering increases in frequency and severity over time. Certain behaviors, actions and words by an abuser, however, indicate particular danger for you.
Men who abuse their partners come from all races, religions, socioeconomic classes, areas of the world, educational levels and occupations.
Resources for victims of Domestic Violence.