When you are parenting after a divorce, you are working within a situation that is certainly not your ideal. You may not be able to change that overall structure, but there are many small things you can do that will make the situation easier and happier for everyone.
If you or your ex are relocating, you know it is going to be hard for your child to stay close to the non-residential parent. However, as the residential parent, there are many things you can do to encourage them to interact and many ways to provide support during this difficult adjustment.
The girlfriend. She strikes terror in the heart of divorced mothers everywhere. When your ex gets a girlfriend it's challenging enough to deal with your own emotions, but when the girlfriend is suddenly a big part of your child's life, it's hard to know how to react.
There are some non-custodial parents who either skip visitation or think it should revolve around their lives. Dealing with these situations can be challenging. Setting limits will help you and your child cope better with the situation and take the guesswork out of visitation.
When you're thinking about whether or not you should move in with your new love, you need to, of course, examine your feelings about the person and evaluate the relationship. That's not all you need to do, however. You should also examine the relationship your child has with this person.
There are many situations you can work out on your own, however, there are also many situations where you do need help from professionals. Learning what kind of intervention to use when can save everyone a lot of headaches and ultimately a lot of attorney's fees.
A parenting plan or visitation schedule is created for the benefit of the child. Spending time with both parents is a right given to the child. If visitation belongs to anyone, it belongs to the child.
"But Dad always lets me stay up this late." "At Mom's house we don't have to take the garbage out." Sound familiar? You need to create important, big, lifestyle rules that are followed at both homes.
The parenting plan should just be a starting place for you. Anything you can both agree to in the future should become your plan. You aren't bound to this plan for the rest of your lives.