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  • Co-parenting: Small Changes Have Big Results

    When you are parenting after a divorce, you are working within a situation that is certainly not your ideal. You may not be able to change that overall structure, but there are many small things you can do that will make the situation easier and happier for everyone.

  • Divorced Parenting: Help Relationships Thrive After Relocation

    If you or your ex are relocating, you know it is going to be hard for your child to stay close to the non-residential parent. However, as the residential parent, there are many things you can do to encourage them to interact and many ways to provide support during this difficult adjustment.

  • Divorced Parenting: The Girlfriend

    The girlfriend. She strikes terror in the heart of divorced mothers everywhere. When your ex gets a girlfriend it's challenging enough to deal with your own emotions, but when the girlfriend is suddenly a big part of your child's life, it's hard to know how to react.

  • Pulling the Plug on Visitation

    There are some non-custodial parents who either skip visitation or think it should revolve around their lives. Dealing with these situations can be challenging. Setting limits will help you and your child cope better with the situation and take the guesswork out of visitation.

  • Divorced Parenting: Shacking Up

    When you're thinking about whether or not you should move in with your new love, you need to, of course, examine your feelings about the person and evaluate the relationship. That's not all you need to do, however. You should also examine the relationship your child has with this person.

  • Triage for Parenting Problems

    There are many situations you can work out on your own, however, there are also many situations where you do need help from professionals. Learning what kind of intervention to use when can save everyone a lot of headaches and ultimately a lot of attorney's fees.

  • Visitation Belongs to Kids

    A parenting plan or visitation schedule is created for the benefit of the child. Spending time with both parents is a right given to the child. If visitation belongs to anyone, it belongs to the child.

  • Divorced Parenting: Whose Rules Rule?

    "But Dad always lets me stay up this late." "At Mom's house we don't have to take the garbage out." Sound familiar? You need to create important, big, lifestyle rules that are followed at both homes.

  • Parenting Plans Are Not Written in Stone

    The parenting plan should just be a starting place for you. Anything you can both agree to in the future should become your plan. You aren't bound to this plan for the rest of your lives.

  • Parenting Apart: Coping with Visitation and Your Baby

    It's no one's dream to be a single parent, but since half of all marriages do end in divorce and at least as many unmarried couples break up, single parenting is reality for many mothers. Arranging visitation is easiest if you remain flexible and patient.

  • Making Changes to Your Parenting Plan

    Because children are always growing and changing, no parenting schedule will work forever. When making changes to your parenting plan, keep these things in mind:

  • Ten Tips to Help Dads Stay Connected to Their Kids After Divorce

    I often hear from women concerning their husband's kids from a prior relationship. They notice that Dads who don't live with their kids find it challenging to stay connected, and describe the difficulties of integrating these kids into the family when they come to visit.

  • Visitation: When Your Child Doesn't Want to Go

    Visitation is more than just a schedule. It is a connection to both parents. So what do you do when your child won't go?

  • How Do I Get My Boyfriend to Spent Time with His Kids?

    QUESTION

    Dear Child Psychologist,
    I am concerned that my boyfriend doesn't spend enough time with his children. At times we have discussions about this topic, and he states that they don't like him, and that they are always crying for their mothers. I have experienced such an instance, with his youngest child. However, after I had a motherly like discussion with his child the little boy was ok. We were all just fine, and the young boy even stayed the night without any discomfort.

  • Visitation: When Your Ex is an Invisible Parent

    You have your child packed up and ready to go with the other parent -- and your ex doesn't show up. You can't call the cops and have them haul your ex to your door to pick up your child, but there are other things you can do.

  • New Holiday Traditions After Divorce

    So you think you're moving along and adapting to your new split-family living situation. Then what do you spy on your calendar? Thanksgiving doesn't fall on Tuesday? It doesn't fall on Saturday, Sunday or Monday either. What can you do to make split-family living better during the holidays?

  • Mediation Solves Custody Disputes

    In mediation, the parents meet with a neutral mediator (who usually has background as a lawyer or therapist) who helps the two parents find solutions that work for their lives, instead of making those decisions for them as a judge would do.

  • Transitioning Tuesday: Smooth Transitions for Divorced Parents

    "Doing the kid shuffle." Today it means helping them cope with living in two homes with two sets of rules, and often two sets of belongings. Here are ten ways you can help your child cope with this split-family living lifestyle: