Apprehensive about your mother-in-law's upcoming visit? Try out the Artichoke Principle. Getting to the heart of a problem might not make your mother-in-law disappear but understanding each other's core yearnings gives a new vocabulary to navigate her visit and to support each other's dreams.
The way I see it, there are two groups of people: those who love the holidays because they love spending time with family, and those who dread the holidays because their family—or spouse's family -- is difficult to be around. I wrote this article for those of you in the second category.
It's been said that having a baby is like throwing a hand grenade into a marriage. A hand grenade? Why the violent metaphor for such a precious, peaceful little thing? They're so beautiful. They're so lovable. How can anyone defame such a cutie?
When you have a baby -- particularly your first -- a little advice from friends and family can be very useful. But when it comes to feeding your little one, the advice you receive may conflict with that given by your pediatrician. So what do you do when the advice begins to feel like criticism -- or even pressure?
Oh dear! When children come along, relatives can be an incredible blessing or something of a curse -- and sometimes both at the same time. Happily, there are lots of ways to keep things on a good footing with the relatives.
Nothing much has changed around here. I am trying my best to get my house cleaned before my in-laws arrive this weekend. The countdown is on for the cerclage so I feel especially anxious to get my house in order beforehand.
"I'm sorry for being a butthead last night," she said. "I'm sorry for reacting the way I did." We kissed again and that was that. It was a weird feeling, partially because it was our first argument in years in which she had been the irrational one and admitted as much.
This has been a busy week. My mother-in-law and father-in-law headed for the open road to take a vacation and visit one of their five sons. While they are away, they asked me to drive their youngest two children to and from school.
Babu is still floating around in the amniotic sac, but now it can tell when it's upside-down or right-side-up, and it may have something to say about that.
I got the chance to speak with one of the agencies we're considering for adoption next spring, and they said we could pretty much get started anytime after the baby arrives.
Oh dear! When children come along, relatives can be an incredible blessing or something of a curse -- and sometimes both at the same time. Happily, there are lots of ways to keep things on a good footing with the relatives.
This has been a busy week. My mother-in-law and father-in-law headed for the open road to take a vacation and visit one of their five sons. While they are away, they asked me to drive their youngest two children to and from school.
Nothing much has changed around here. I am trying my best to get my house cleaned before my in-laws arrive this weekend. The countdown is on for the cerclage so I feel especially anxious to get my house in order beforehand.
"I'm sorry for being a butthead last night," she said. "I'm sorry for reacting the way I did." We kissed again and that was that. It was a weird feeling, partially because it was our first argument in years in which she had been the irrational one and admitted as much.
The way I see it, there are two groups of people: those who love the holidays because they love spending time with family, and those who dread the holidays because their family—or spouse's family -- is difficult to be around. I wrote this article for those of you in the second category.
When you have a baby -- particularly your first -- a little advice from friends and family can be very useful. But when it comes to feeding your little one, the advice you receive may conflict with that given by your pediatrician. So what do you do when the advice begins to feel like criticism -- or even pressure?
Babu is still floating around in the amniotic sac, but now it can tell when it's upside-down or right-side-up, and it may have something to say about that.
It's been said that having a baby is like throwing a hand grenade into a marriage. A hand grenade? Why the violent metaphor for such a precious, peaceful little thing? They're so beautiful. They're so lovable. How can anyone defame such a cutie?
I got the chance to speak with one of the agencies we're considering for adoption next spring, and they said we could pretty much get started anytime after the baby arrives.
Apprehensive about your mother-in-law's upcoming visit? Try out the Artichoke Principle. Getting to the heart of a problem might not make your mother-in-law disappear but understanding each other's core yearnings gives a new vocabulary to navigate her visit and to support each other's dreams.