Pregnancy and infant loss is never easy. The passing often takes with it shattered hearts and dreams of a future far different than the reality. Having to go through this process while still being called on to serve others -- whether that role is bearing work responsibilities, as "mom" for other children, coping with deteriorating health of parents or in-laws, or simply juggling your relationship with your partner -- 'overwhelming' doesn't even come close.
Besides gender predictions, a pregnant woman is also apt to acquire an earful of advice about miscarriage, dietary habits and cravings, hair growth, weight gain, and childbirth -- from mothers, grandmothers, aunts, sisters, sisters-in-law, new mothers, friends, and even strangers. And, of course, everyone wants to touch her belly.
We've all been there. The moment someone says something hurtful about the loss of our baby. I say it's time to hold our heads high, reclaim our privacy and space, and let people know that what they say is not acceptable. Learn how to educate "the ignorant," "the indignant" and "the idiot" so their next response can help heal a friend facing pregnancy loss.
Loss of an unborn baby often affects men and women in a very different way especially if the loss is in the early staa woman knows she is pregnant she will start thinking about the embryo as a real person -- one with a face, fingers, toes and a name. Guys on the other hand...
We grow up thinking that babies aren't supposed to die. They're meant to outlive their parents and live in a future generation. Unfortunately, reality teaches us that this is not always the case.
Here is a list of ideas to help you as you create memories and say good-bye to your child.
I wish very much that you could understand -- understand my loss and grief, my silence and my tears, my void and my pain. BUT...I pray daily that you will never understand.
I called my midwife. I'd expected her to tell me it wasn't a problem -- to just go home and take it easy for a few days. Becky explained that it was quite possible I was miscarrying.