We've all been there. The moment someone says something hurtful about the loss of our baby. I say it's time to hold our heads high, reclaim our privacy and space, and let people know that what they say is not acceptable. Learn how to educate "the ignorant," "the indignant" and "the idiot" so their next response can help heal a friend facing pregnancy loss.

I had three positive home pregnancy tests, all different brands. But when I went for my blood test, it was negative. Why? Causes for false positives include...

QUESTION

Dear Midwife,
My LMP was 8-29-09. Date of conception ~ 09/15. Spotting and cramping yielded very early US on 10/05. Abnormal US "showing large subchorionic hematoma "probably abortion in progress, with no fetal pole." Quantitative Bhcg went from 15999 to 30000 in 48 hours (10/06-10/08). Saw OBGYN 10/12 w/repeat U/S.

Her thoughts were there is no hematoma, but that it is a collapsed second sac. No fetal pole or heartbeat seen in other sac. OB states 99% sure not a viable pregnancy. Had repeat bhcg same day, up to 60,000.

QUESTION

Dear Midwife,
Three years ago I got pregnant and then miscarried at 6 weeks. There was a lot of blood and a lot of cramping. When I went in to the doctor, he was very good about helping me through the ordeal and because of my father's medical history, decided to run some blood tests. I was diagnosed with MTHFR and prescribed Metanex. In September of that year, I became pregnant again and now have a beautiful boy that I love dearly.

As many as 25 percent of all pregnancies end in miscarriage, half of them before the woman even realizes she is pregnant. Fortunately, most women who miscarry, even more than once, can become pregnant again and give birth to a healthy baby. Read "Miscarriage Facts" to learn more.

QUESTION

Dear Midwife,
I found out I was pregnant, Feb 11. I went to the dr at 7w3d. I had the ultrasound the next week. the technician said she could not see anything except a gestational but nothing in it. She said maybe it was too early. I went in at 10w2d for hcg levels 48 hrs apart. The next day I started bleeding. I went in to see the Dr. He said my levels had dropped from week 8 at 39,900 to 25,000 now at 10w2d. He said the pregnancy would end in miscarriage.

QUESTION

Dear Midwife,
I'm 7 weeks pregnant and I just started spotting. I've had a miscarriage in the past and am extremely nervous.

The bleeding is very light, sort of mucousy, and I'm only slightly crampy, but I've been slightly crampy for weeks now. Could this be late implantation? Or should I be worried that it's something more serious?

Thank you!

Who knew that there are so many reasons to be angry after a miscarriage? I am a mental health care professional so I am well acquainted with the stages of grief. I was not shocked by my shock. I expected and allowed my sadness. What I was not prepared for, however, was the depth and breadth of my anger. I am ANGRY. I am angry with any pregnant woman who has the audacity to be within a 30 foot radius of me.