A year after Allie was born, I feel like I've fallen off of everybody's radar. It's like you're expected to do life -- go to the job, do housework, drive around, shop, pay bills, get gas, etc. -- just like before, as if the infant you're still super responsible for is not a factor at all.
Although pregnancy can be a very meaningful and exciting time for a woman and her partner, there are unique concerns and pressures for each of you alone and also together as a couple. Pregnancy is a period of transition, a change from one family pattern to another. It is also a time of growth.
We have developed strong opinions about the value of honesty in relationships. In a word, honesty is crucial. Crucial is derived from the same word that means crux. And honesty really is the crux of the matter in close relationships.
Some couples are equal partners in the work of making a family. But that's the exception, since many studies have found that the average mother is on-task, working away at one thing or another, about twenty hours a week MORE than her partner is, whether or not she is drawing a paycheck.
Out of our marriage and experience with many couples with children, here's a 'Top Ten' list (in no particular order) addressed to a father; hopefully some of these suggestions will fit your relationship
Although pregnancy can be a very meaningful and exciting time for a woman and her partner, there are unique concerns and pressures for each of you alone and also together as a couple. Pregnancy is a period of transition, a change from one family pattern to another. It is also a time of growth.
Out of our marriage and experience with many couples with children, here's a 'Top Ten' list (in no particular order) addressed to a father; hopefully some of these suggestions will fit your relationship
We have developed strong opinions about the value of honesty in relationships. In a word, honesty is crucial. Crucial is derived from the same word that means crux. And honesty really is the crux of the matter in close relationships.
A year after Allie was born, I feel like I've fallen off of everybody's radar. It's like you're expected to do life -- go to the job, do housework, drive around, shop, pay bills, get gas, etc. -- just like before, as if the infant you're still super responsible for is not a factor at all.
Some couples are equal partners in the work of making a family. But that's the exception, since many studies have found that the average mother is on-task, working away at one thing or another, about twenty hours a week MORE than her partner is, whether or not she is drawing a paycheck.
Episode 2: Q and A with the BeingDad "Pregnancy Partners" with Sam Holt - August 6, 2009. 
