Can you tell in advance when your child might be heading towards a meltdown? We had set up a "calming down" corner in her room. We used it as a place for her to go and center and reorganize herself when she was starting to get upset -- but before she got too upset.
When our children are upset, we want to soothe them. Often, by habit and by memory our own childhood experiences, we may be tempted to soothe with food. Food should never be the only option for comfort. The next time you're tempted to give them a cookie or lollipop to help them feel better, think of trying one of these strategies instead.
As hard as it may be to imagine, there exists a rather basic parenting issue that regularly generates even more controversy than circumcision or the disposable-versus-cloth diapers-debate: whether or not to have your child sleep in the same bed as you and your partner.
You've been wondering if there's something wrong with you. The book you've been reading says to put your baby on a schedule. "He needs routine. A little crying doesn't hurt a baby." But your heart breaks to hear you little one crying and your milk lets down and you yearn to hold him and nurse him.
Once the baby learns that her caretakers are reliably nurturing and protective, she builds on this internal security as she proceeds to the next developmental task of exploration, matery of the environment, and forming relationships with others.
What do babies need? Their parents. Not the cute baby clothes you got at the shower. Not the baby swing, or seat, or crib. Not even diapers. You may need all that. But your baby needs his parents.
Attachment parenting is a new term for an age-old approach. The needs of babies and children have not changed for countless generations -- though our values and parenting styles have. The human race simply would not have survived if mothers had not met the infant's most basic needs.
I formed a habit of carrying my baby. We're both happier because of this decision. And with a good sling, it's no harder on me than pulling my own weight. The concept of babywearing is as old as time, and is still prevalent today in many cultures. It's a practice on the rise in the United States.
The basic idea is simple and intuitively obvious. To survive, human babies need parents to keep them from harm's way for many years, and to teach them survival skills. So all humans are born seeking close attachments. That's why newborns hang on to your finger and babies cry to be picked up.
You've been wondering if there's something wrong with you. The book you've been reading says to put your baby on a schedule. "He needs routine. A little crying doesn't hurt a baby." But your heart breaks to hear you little one crying and your milk lets down and you yearn to hold him and nurse him.
The basic idea is simple and intuitively obvious. To survive, human babies need parents to keep them from harm's way for many years, and to teach them survival skills. So all humans are born seeking close attachments. That's why newborns hang on to your finger and babies cry to be picked up.
As hard as it may be to imagine, there exists a rather basic parenting issue that regularly generates even more controversy than circumcision or the disposable-versus-cloth diapers-debate: whether or not to have your child sleep in the same bed as you and your partner.
Once the baby learns that her caretakers are reliably nurturing and protective, she builds on this internal security as she proceeds to the next developmental task of exploration, matery of the environment, and forming relationships with others.
Attachment parenting is a new term for an age-old approach. The needs of babies and children have not changed for countless generations -- though our values and parenting styles have. The human race simply would not have survived if mothers had not met the infant's most basic needs.
I formed a habit of carrying my baby. We're both happier because of this decision. And with a good sling, it's no harder on me than pulling my own weight. The concept of babywearing is as old as time, and is still prevalent today in many cultures. It's a practice on the rise in the United States.
When our children are upset, we want to soothe them. Often, by habit and by memory our own childhood experiences, we may be tempted to soothe with food. Food should never be the only option for comfort. The next time you're tempted to give them a cookie or lollipop to help them feel better, think of trying one of these strategies instead.
Can you tell in advance when your child might be heading towards a meltdown? We had set up a "calming down" corner in her room. We used it as a place for her to go and center and reorganize herself when she was starting to get upset -- but before she got too upset.
What do babies need? Their parents. Not the cute baby clothes you got at the shower. Not the baby swing, or seat, or crib. Not even diapers. You may need all that. But your baby needs his parents.