Although Maria Shriver and Arnold Schwarzenegger have been estranged since last May (after Arnold had fathered a child with the family housekeeper of over 20 years), Maria and Arnold Schwarzenegger spent Christmas together as a family with their children.
When you are parenting after a divorce, you are working within a situation that is certainly not your ideal. You may not be able to change that overall structure, but there are many small things you can do that will make the situation easier and happier for everyone.
Whether your child spends most of his or her time at your home, or at the other parent's home, you probably want to be informed and stay involved with your child's education. Unfortunately, many schools make this a challenge.
A custody order is not a declaration, condemnation, or reward about the parents' abilities, personalities, or lifestyles. It doesn't determine who is the "good" parent and who is the "bad" parent. A custody order is a method of organizing your lives so that your child has one home and has time to spend with each parent.
If you or your ex are relocating, you know it is going to be hard for your child to stay close to the non-residential parent. However, as the residential parent, there are many things you can do to encourage them to interact and many ways to provide support during this difficult adjustment.
What stepfamilies themselves, as well as the best family therapists, have known for years, is that the standard of blending is just plain wrong. It not only misrepresents the reality of life for all the players in a remarriage with children; the concept is also unrealistic and harmful to stepfamilies and individual stepfamily members.
It's no one's dream to be a single parent, but since half of all marriages do end in divorce and at least as many unmarried couples break up, single parenting is reality for many mothers. Arranging visitation is easiest if you remain flexible and patient.
The time your child spends with both of you has nothing to do with child support. Custody is only the preliminary factor in setting up child support. The non-custodial parent must pay it to the custodial parent. But beyond that, what happens with your parenting plan has no impact on child support.
One of the most common questions I am asked by custodial parents is whether they can reduce visitation. The easy answer to that question is maybe, if there has been a change in circumstances and if doing so would be in the best interest of the child.
A parenting plan or visitation schedule is created for the benefit of the child. Spending time with both parents is a right given to the child. If visitation belongs to anyone, it belongs to the child.
No matter what you may think about divorce. No matter what you may feel about divorce. No matter what your situation or experience, life will change for you and your children. Follow these guidelines of how you can help them cope.
Many children spend large chunks of time with their non-custodial parent over the summer. That first long visitation can be tough on the custodial parent and the child. These offers tips that can make it easier on you both.