We grow up thinking that babies aren't supposed to die. They're meant to outlive their parents and live in a future generation. Unfortunately, reality teaches us that this is not always the case.
Grief and Loss
Here is a list of ideas to help you as you create memories and say good-bye to your child.
I wish very much that you could understand -- understand my loss and grief, my silence and my tears, my void and my pain. BUT...I pray daily that you will never understand.
His reaction to loss is quite different than my own. This does NOT mean that he cares less than I do, but instead indicates that his method in grieving is very distinctive of mine.
I called my midwife. I'd expected her to tell me it wasn't a problem -- to just go home and take it easy for a few days. Becky explained that it was quite possible I was miscarrying.
My best friend's baby died at 39 weeks gestation. What could I say? Could I share the pain? Was there anything I could do? I felt so helpless. Since then, I've experienced four pregnancy losses of my own. I hope these glimpses into loss will enable you to help your friend.
Today is the fifth anniversary of the day I miscarried my son. Anniversaries, by their nature, force us to remember even what we would choose to forget.
Memory is a funny thing. the day of my child's cancer diagnosis is a strong and vivid memory, even seven years later. Most of the time, I don't dwell on that series of images. It was, after all, a chapter in our lives, and one that is now blessedly behind us. But early each autumn...
Remember that Mother's Day is not a holiday that has to be celebrated. If a grieving mother does not want to attend a banquet, or watch baby dedications at church, or see special family gatherings at restaurants, then she has the right to choose not to participate in these events
Whether or not you are out of the closet to your family and friends regarding your fertility issues, holidays or special occasions including the upcoming "Mother's Day" celebration can be difficult to handle.