The second trimester brings a bump and a few other telling signs that you are carrying a real person. It's starting to hit home with your guy that he really is going to be a dad. Is he mature enough to be a parent? How will your relationship hold up? Will he ever have sex again? This is what he may be worried about for the coming months.
Just for Dads
Bonding with baby is typically far easier for mom. For dads, however, that lack of physical awareness contributes to a greater challenge connecting with their little one while in utero. Still, it is very much possible.
So we have decided. We are going to try for a second child. He is all for it. We are increasing our sex and not using any barriers. Yet, he keeps saying well I want to go on vacation before we get pregnant. Your not really ovulating right now are you? This is just practicing right? He keeps confusing the heck out of me. Either we are trying to have a child or we are not. There is no in between on this because what happens once I am finally pregnant? Then what. I don't understand and I am horrible at speaking guy.
In June families around the world honor fathers. Let's take this opportunity to recognize dad's active role in a child's life.
A couple of weeks ago my wife and I discovered that we are pregnant. We weren't trying to get pregnant, although it was part of our plans maybe a year down the road. She has been on a pretty intense diet but the last few weeks she hadn't lost any weight and then she was late. Her dietician advised her to take a test as it wasn't good to continue on the diet if she was pregnant. We drove to the all-night supermarket and bought a couple of mid-priced test kits - after all if we weren't knocked up why waste money right? We got home and she took the test. Sure enough the pink line appeared.
Battling traffic was the easy part. Talking in front of 100+ potential clients? No sweat! Getting past "toddler separation meltdown" however.... What on earth is a parent to do?
It's very rare to hear a man talk about how he bonded with his baby whilst it was still in the womb. For that matter I think the majority of men don't feel a strong bond with their baby for several weeks or even months. Why is this the case? What can we do about it?
We've interviewed hundreds of men around the world for our Being Dad films and color, religion or nationality doesn't matter; some men can have sex during pregnancy and some can't. Many women have told us that when their man tells them they aren't interested or can't do it that they perceived it was because he didn't find them attractive in their later stages of pregnancy.
Loss of an unborn baby often affects men and women in a very different way especially if the loss is in the early staa woman knows she is pregnant she will start thinking about the embryo as a real person -- one with a face, fingers, toes and a name. Guys on the other hand...
She's thinking of the baby, wondering how breastfeeding will go, how much time she'll take off from work and what color to paint the nursery. You're thinking about the money, the future, your buddies, perhaps a bigger house and wondering whether you really have to buy a mini-van.