Even though a miscarriage is a shared experience between a man and woman, this type of early pregnancy loss is also a highly personal loss to a woman because of the direct physical and emotional impact the miscarriage has on the mother.
According to one of Sarah's pregnancy books, Babu is currently hopping around in the womb like a Mexican jumping bean. Which means that the kid is already a better dancer than either of his/her parents.
Fifteen minutes later, she came into the bedroom to help me fold laundry, as chipper as could be. No tears, no anger, no nothing. The popcorn was a distant memory; it was like the whole thing had never happened.
Chicken pox can cause birth defects in the fetus. I couldn't think of any scarier words on earth. Two minutes earlier I was blissfully fact -- checking a column about Italian cheese, and now we're talking birth defects?
By the time the groundskeepers were removing the rain tarp from the field, we were no longer speaking to each other. I guess these kinds of complex theological problems can't be solved in an afternoon. The important thing was that we were able to openly talk about our differences.
So where does this leave us? With a lot of pressure on me, that's where. No one ever made a killing as a journalist, and I'm certainly no exception. My salary is not enough to support two people, much less three. So, what to do? Take three months off, that's what.
Here's what it's like sharing a bed with 39-weeks pregnant woman. Or, at least, with mine. Early this morning, I was sleeping peacefully when I felt a tugging on my shirt. I rolled over and Sarah was staring at me, wide awake.